'They might be hot, but if they're a piece of shit - they're a piece of shit' - Florence given.11/24/2020 Stop settling for less than you are worth, just because you require another person's love to feel validated. Dating is complicated, but I can't stress enough how important it is to learn to love yourself before you begin to date. If you do not love yourself, you will fall into the trap of becoming blind to red flags, allowing them to treat you like shit just because you're scared that you can't survive without them. It happened to me, I had not learnt to enjoy my own company, and build a self worth based off of how I feel about myself, instead of other people. I started seeing a guy and I very quickly became blind to the (very obvious) red flags that he portrayed. This was all because I was very attracted to him and enjoyed the compliments he gave me. Over time, I allowed him to use me, jump between me and another girl and spread rumors about me behind my back. I still continued to see him because I had excepted that this was how I deserved to be treated and this is the way that I will be treated by men. I needed compliments and attention from him to feel wanted, when he did not give me this, I did not like myself and I had very low self worth. This is because I had not learnt to love myself, him being subjectively the most attractive that had ever shown interest in me, I felt this need to hang on to him because I will never get an opportunity like this again. But, no matter how attractive someone is, if they treat you poorly, fucking run. They are not worth your time, they will destroy you and you self worth, often because they have low self worth themselves. Don't be afraid of being single, it is far better to wait for the right individual to come along, instead of destroying yourself for someone just because you're afraid of being alone. 'Being alone' is actually so valuable, especially if you are someone that bases their self worth off of how others view and treat them. Spending time to learn to love yourself for who you are and what amazing qualities you have, you start to see how others completely overlooked or took advantage of these qualities, and you realise just how much better you deserve. You then allow yourself to be patient with looking for a partner and won't settle for less because you are aware of what you deserve.
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